Lee, Tonya, and I created this site because we had a passion for writing, for heroes, and for books.
After a while, we invited DD Scott and Heather Webber to join us. They brought a diversity of thought and genre to TNH. Heather’s plate became so full that she had to step away (I miss her), but we were thrilled to welcome Talli Roland last week.
We’ve evolved, definitely broadening our topics based on our interests. For a long time, we’ve stripped down heroes, heroines, and villains, but now we’re going to start stripping down ourselves.
Pop those eyes back into your head!
Um, what am I talking about?
We all have our passions and interests and topics we like to write about. We all have unique voices and something different to offer. And so we’re going to strip away the layers of who we are and reveal a bit more about ourselves and what makes US tick. The Naked Hero has readers who love books, who are writers, who are not writers, who dig movies, who want to be introduced to new authors…and more. We’re going to keep bringing you lots of great new authors, heroes, heroines, villains, and such, but we’re also broadening our focus to incorporate a bit more of our own passions.
Today, I’m going to admit something to y’all.
Hi, my name is Misa and I’m a control freak.
Okay, not really, but that sounds better than saying, “I like to be in control of things that matter to me.” If I feel strongly about something, if I’m passionate, if it’s important, or if I see something or someone in need of an advocate, I like to take control.
Why? Because then I know things will get done. I take action. I’m not afraid and don’t back down. And I will push until I’m satisfied with the resolution.
The Naked Hero gals know this, of course, as does my husband and family. When something gets under my skin, whether it’s because I can’t control it or it just grates on me for some reason, I have a hard time holding my tongue. I’m not over the top, but I definitely like to have things done a certain way and to know that a task I deem as important is getting done.
What’s ironic about this is that I grew up shy. VERY shy. I outgrew that, to a degree, but I’m still much better one on one compared to in a group. It’s just easier that way.
But once I hit thirty-five, a slew of things happened and suddenly I felt like The Hulk. Something snapped inside of me and I grew and changed and thankfully didn’t turn green.
I developed (or discovered) new character traits. I suddenly didn’t care about how I was perceived, received, or if anyone agreed with me. I went into protection mode, was fired up over injustices, and (in my opinion) I became a new and improved Misa.
Some big, sort of global things that bring these traits out in me:
- My kids. Because they are my kids.
- My kids’ education. We’ve had great educational opportunities for our kids, and not so great situations. The not so great fill me with despair, but that despair motivates me to make change.
- Time. Because my time is so fragmented, I try to protect pockets of it–not always easy.
- Prejudice and close-mindedness. It’s a big, wide world out there, and we all deserve to believe what we believe without being vilified for it.
- Superficiality. Seriously, be who you are. Be authentic.
Some things push me to the tipping point:
- Moms who are throwbacks to junior high school days. See above…be authentic!
- Hearing improper grammar in songs, books, articles, and things like that (weird, I know, but I have a thing for grammar. I heard Will Smith interviewed once and the one thing I remember from that interview was when he said, “It’s okay if you’re making a choice (to use bad grammar), ebonically speaking. But not knowing proper grammar is a tough one for me.” (I’m not alone in this, apparently. There was a post on one of my loops recently about using the word ‘fewer’ or ‘less’, as in 2000 or fewer words, which is correct. 2000 or less? Not correct.)
- Knowing when to use ‘me’ instead of ‘I’. Oprah and I learned this in third grade (she and Gayle King had a conversation about it once and it’s played on Oprah radio). When did you learn it?
- Good verses Well: I’m forever correcting my son. I say, “How are you doing?” He says, “Good.” I say, “Well.” He says, “What?” I say, “You’re not doing good, you’re doing well.” He rolls his eyes.
- And what about apostrophes and possessives? Let me just put it out there. I love The Grammar Divas. Yep, I’m a grammar girl. Do you know how many rock songs use bad grammar? Ay caramba. (I’m not a Grammar Nazi–I live in Texas, after all, where double y’alls and other quirky language reigns supreme. I’ve even adopted some of it. Whenever instead of when? Yup, I say it. But I do have grammar quotes I like–I know, how lame is this?):
“Cut out all those exclamation marks. An exclamation mark is like laughing at your own jokes.” ~F. Scott Fitzgerald
“When I split an infinitive, god damn it, I split it so it stays split.” ~Raymond Chandler
- Piles of laundry. Which means I’m pretty much always at the tipping point with this since the laundry is ALWAYS piled up.
- My inherently unorganized mind. I’m the creative type, but I have the need and desire to be organized. If only it came more easily.
And my personal therapy:
- Project Runway. I just dig Heidi Klum and the fashion challenges. I WISH I could do what they do.
- Girlie movies and kid movies. 27 Dresses. Sandra Bullock. Harry Potter. These things are like pot roast and mashed potatoes to me. Total comfort.
- Writing, of course.
- Chocolate chip cookies, straight from the oven. Yum. Might make those tonight. Yep, definitely will.
- Decorating. If only I had an unlimited budget. Alas, I don’t. Not even close. But I educate my taste with window and catalog shopping.
- Having my kids all home. My oldest surprised us by coming home from college for the weekend. Sweet!
- Remembering that I’m always learning and growing, and that it’s all about the journey.
- Quotes. I find them inspirational and informative, thought-provoking and entertaining. My favorite (a different version of which is now on my daughter’s wall in her room):
Your turn. What are your pet peeves, things that send you over the edge, and your personal therapy salvation?