Holding Out For A Hero
When you think of a hero, what criteria do you use?
Brave? Well that’s a given. Whether I’m wearing my female hat or writer’s hat, a man has to have certain qualities to rank up there with our nation’s military finest. Did you read the book Lone Survivor or see the movie? Heroes!
Other than being strong, fast, courageous, and fearless, I like a hero who carries himself with confidence. The kind of confidence that says he’s doing the right things for the right reasons. His inner strength must be so ingrained that tenderness is freely given and isn’t a threat to his masculinity. Secure in his masculinity, he’ll allow himself to rescue an abandoned kitten or dog without feeling a display of kindness might jeopardize his reputation as a hard-ass.
Have you ever seen a firefighter drop to his knees and resuscitate a dog or cat that had been overcome by smoke inhalation…hero.
Take Bonnie Tyler’s hit song from the 60s, “Holding Out For A Hero” for example. (All you youngsters who haven’t heard this song, download it. It will be the best .99 you ever spent.) Lyrics are copyrighted so I can’t use them here, but she nailed what most women want in a hero.
Here’s a real life example. How about Peyton Manning, the quarterback for the Denver Broncos? His prowess on the football field is well known, but for me, the class he demonstrates when he’s not playing makes him a hero.
Last year, Ray Lewis and the Baltimore Ravens dealt Manning and the Broncos a devastating loss. After the game, Manning went to the Ravens locker room. You see, Lewis was retiring. But it was after Lewis had showered, changed into his suit, and finished with the press conference, that he learned Manning and his family were waiting for him.
Manning lost that game, but he stayed long after his teammates had left just to shake Ray Lewis’s hand and wish him the best.
That’s class with a capital C. And I want my hero’s to have that kind of classy confidence.
What qualities do you look for in a man? Are they the same expectations you have for a hero in a romance novel?