All heroes have quirks. All of them. Full stop. No matter what story you’re reading the guy has a quirk. Even if they are somewhat annoying and one dimensional –Diggory I’m looking at your later career choices so there’s no use hiding in the corner and pretending I don’t see your Maybelline face with it’s extra special sparkles.
So I repeat—all heroes have quirks. Some have great quirks like a love of violin or the ability to cook decadent desserts (I recommend Brooke Moss’s Bittersweet if you want a smoking hot version of that kink) and some have some not so great quirks like trust issues, lothario ways or a subtle reliance on mind control – don’t ask I can’t ever get back the time I wasted on that particular novel. But in the end, all heroes like all men have quirks.
You may be thinking well duh, I knew that already Screwball Goddess. But today I found my favorite quirk in a man and I may eventually be stealing it for my books.
It’s a really simple quirk actually—I watched a man buy his wife exactly what she needed. Not jewelry or scratchy lingerie made out of dental floss coated in barbed wire. Nope, none of that. This man went out and bought his wife a pair of Injinji Performance socks.
If you’re not a runner– or even more specifically a member of the minimalist movement of running– you probably have no idea what these are except for basic black socks with toes. But if you are an endurance athlete or a minimalist runner—I’m starting to dip my toe into both with endurance running and triathlon training (check out my blog for my thoughts on THAT particular insanity)—then you know these suckers are the gold standard of what to wear when you want a little more protection on your toesies during long runs, especially if you’re in a minimalist shoe like a Fila Skeletoes or one of the Vibram FiveFingers models. Plus the grippy ones rock for yoga class.
Anyway, as a just because this guy went online and spent the money for his woman some special socks. Why? Because he thought she’d need them. That is it. The end. That’s all.
Her response? “Oh he always does that. That’s just the kind of guy he is. For my birthday he bought me a new pair of Zoomer Z2’s (swim fins for endurance training) and for Christmas he bought me a new pair of clipless pedals for my road bike and a new pair of cycle shoes because he saw mine were getting worn.”
You may be going okay Screwball, what’s the big deal? She needs it, he bought it. So what?
So here’s what. I watched this guy for the rest of the day and I noticed that he was doing it the whole time. It was hot out so off he ambles to get her some water. She doesn’t ask. He just goes and gets it because he recognizes that she’s starting to get hot. He’d lean over to occasionally rub her shoulders when they’d tense. It wasn’t just that this guy was practical it was that he was observant. That was his super special quirk—he knew his sigfig well enough to just know what she needed and took care of it, no questions, no theatrics, no comments needed. And the most important thing? This guy isn’t an endurance athlete. No triathlons. He will not be jumping into freezing water with us and thanking the gods of swimming for all that time with the zoomers in practice when our legs cramp from the water temps. He’s not going to be the one feeling the extra tread on her cycle shoes 23 miles in. This guy picked it all up because he LISTENED and he OBSERVED. And that is a quirk I think we all need to appreciate more and maybe try to cultivate in ourselves.
So that’s the Screwball Goddess’s words of wisdom to start your month off right. Any guy can mold himself a sixpack and pecs that would make women worldwide weep. What’s really special is a guy who takes the time to listen to you, pay attention to you, and then goes about helping you make your dreams no matter how big or small become a reality.
And maybe, if you want to get all philosophical about it we could apply the same lessons to ourselves: It’s the quirks in our character and our capacity to love that make us special not the size of our jeans and our bras. So today, while I’m sweating on the treadmill I’m going to keep reminding myself that being observant and appreciative of others is a quirk that I should be developing—even though my abs need serious work as well.